Let me start by saying thank you to everyone who has sent me messages of encouragement since I announced that I’m training for an IRONMAN, I really and truly appreciate it, and the messages all help motivate me as I train. Thank you!
Now, quick background for those of you who aren’t familiar with my other blog – I am reddit famous. There are multiple threads devoted to me literally every day, people have even created a subreddit entirely about me. They are devoted to hating me and everything I do, including but not limited to my choice to be a fathlete, my Size Diversity activism my Health at Every Size practice and anything and everything that I’m involved in.
From simple name calling to death threats I get e-mails, Youtube, Twitter, and blog comments from them daily (though nobody else sees them because I figured out a long time ago that this is my space and I’m under no obligation to hand it over to anyone who can successfully submit a comment.)
This has been going on for years, including a campaign during which, apropos of nothing, I received 5,000 e-mails telling me to kill myself. (I even created a specific page where people can read some of my more interesting hatemail.) Still,I have never seen them whip themselves up into such a frenzy so quickly as they have over my announcement that I’m training for an IRONMAN. And I gotta tell you, it’s hilarious.
People who spell it “Iron Man” claim to be experts (despite the fact that, as my FB friend Jessica pointed out, there is a big difference between doing an IRONMAN and doing an Iron Man). So they don’t know how to spell it. They also don’t know what the time limit is – I’ve received e-mails, comments, and FB posts telling me that it’s everything from 8 to 16 hours (it’s actually 17 hours, and an 8 hour time would have won the men’s division in the World Championships last year.) The only things that they do seem to know a lot about is name calling, indulging in stereotypes, and covering all their bases:
I don’t intend to make it to the starting line. I’ll never make it to the starting line. The IRONMAN officials will never let me start. I’ll never make the swim cut-off, I’ll never make the bike cut-off, I’ll never be able to complete the run. They don’t make equipment for me because I’m 325, 350, 375, 425, 450 pounds. I’m delusional, I’m a narcissist, I’m a sociopath, I’m a con artist. They hope I’ll fail, they know I’ll fail, it’s impossible for me not to fail. They think I’ll die doing it, they hope I’ll die doing it, two people so far have promised to register for the 2016 Arizona IRONMAN just to drown me during the swim and let people believe that I just couldn’t make it. Blah blah blahditty blah blah.
I know lots of people who’ve announced that they were going to attempt marathons, and a couple who have announced that they are training for an IRONMAN, and literally none of them had a single person tell them they hope they die doing it. I’ve had 11 people wish me dead since 9am this morning.
There’s a new study that may help explain why they do this, but I didn’t need a study to tell me that people who behave like this have some issues. They’ve definitely been this hateful toward me before, but I’ve never seen them be so very desperate, and I have to admit I’m enjoying it a little.
And so I’ve made a decision. In the past I’ve very specifically not used my haters as motivation. But an IRONMAN is a massive goal and sometimes massive goals call for new approaches. So in the interest of using my haters wisely I’ve decided that, just for this, I’m might let them be motivation for me. Regardless, it will be fun to see what they do when I finish.
If you’re looking for a little motivation but name calling and death threats don’t do it for you, here is an oldie but goodie:
And then of course there’s this fabulous piece:
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